Question by Ellie Shell: Is it legal to send a legally adopted child to another home?
Is it legal?
Or possible?
My best friends mother is telling him if he dosent behave she will.
And i was wonder if its even possibly legal.
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Answer by Mel
That’s pretty cruel of her.. but it is possible. It’s not like she can just decide she doesn’t want him after all, but kids do get put in foster homes, or sent to live with other family members. Stuff like that happens all the time.
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Sure it is. Anyone can abandon their child if they really want to.What a cold and cruel thing to say though.
WOW all I do is take away TV – and I thought that was being a little cruel and insensitive. Your friends mother is the type that gives adoption (to me) a bad wrap – But it also proves that adoptive homes aren’t always the best solution!
It’s also mental abuse. Call CPS on her butt.
Any parent can relinquish custody of a child. Once the adoption is finalized, there’s no legal difference in whether the child is adopted or biological when it comes to custody.
However, this is a TERRIBLE thing for someone to threaten their child with… especially an adopted child, who may already have abandonment issues. Please let an adult– like your parents, teacher, school counselor, etc.– know what’s going on. The mother shouldn’t continue to say hurtful and damaging things like this.
I got kicked out at 16 and I’m adopted. Legal? I guess it depends on minor laws in your area. It is quite wrong, however. Your friend needs to get in contact with someone, perhaps through the school guidance counselor. There are ramifications to kicking out a minor. If the parents don’t want the responsibility, perhaps they should look into emancipating your friend instead.
Tell her she’s emotionally abusing her son and then show her these articles.
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/LegalCenter/story?id=1205508&CMP=OTC-RSSFeeds0312
http://cbs2.com/national/jacob.jett.parents.2.659230.html
Cruel and insensitive…sure. Illegal…nope. Parents send natural children to live with other parents (ex-husbands, ex-wifes) all the time. They also send them to live with grand parents or family friends too. It can be done if there is a problem, it can be done if there is a change in circumstance, it can be done due to illness or a whole host of other reasons. Its no different for an adopted child.
If the child is legally adopted by her then the child is HER responsibility.
It may be possible to grant custody of him to another person, but that isn’t going to help him adjust to being with a “new” family.
She needs to have patience, talk to a counselor, and help her son realise he’s in his forever home and doesn’t have to worry about moving from place to place any more!
IF she places him somewhere else it would have to be a legal change of custody. It may not be allowed since he was adopted though.
Parents have said things like for generations… The latest is “If you don’t behave I’ll put you on Ebay.” I’ve heard parents say it to their biological kids, (non of them are adoptive families, I’ve never heard that kind of talk pass the lips of any of my friends lips.) I’d never say it my kids or the give you away to another family line. I
usually find its families that are ignorant about adoption that say things like flippantly.
Heck I have a nephew that they joked around with saying “He’s adopted, cause he doesn’t look like anyone in the family.”(He doesn’t really, must be someone in past generations he takes after. Our daughter looks more like family members than he does.) He used to laugh about it but the joke since we all know he’s not adopted but it stopped when we adopted our first child.
Suddenly they all realized the content of what they were joking about, and became more sensitive to what they were all saying to him and in front of our daughter. (The felt those kind of words would hurt our little girl as she grows older- Damn right they would!)
I wouldn’t take your friends mother seriously.
Thats a bit harsh, perhaps she should go to parenting classes or some place to get help.
Wow…that’s really cruel of her to say that.
If he’s legally adopted then I believe, legally, he is “hers” – meaning that if she can do it to a natural child, she can do it to an adopted one too. I could be wrong, but that’s what I think….
I also think that maybe your friend should talk to a counselor at school about his Mom threatening to send her away. The ONLY thing that could make me want to send a child of mine away is if he or she was continually destroying the house, stealing, getting into trouble with the cops, that kind of thing – and if that were the case, I would send him somewhere to HELP him, not just to get him out of my house. She’s his Mom – she’s supposed to support him, raise him for God’s sake, not threaten to quit when things get difficult.
But anyway I do reccommend that he talk to a school counselor or his therapist if he sees one, maybe another adult on the outside could arrange a conference so they can talk it out. She probably won’t be so quick with her threats and more likely to listen to another adult point of view.
What a disgusting thing to threaten a child with!